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wendy walker · #1 (**permalink**) 17-01-08

Hi everyone, happy new year. Can anyone help me with this very big problem? I married my hubby in november 2006, went to embassy in Dec. was refused visa.. ok.. our fault not put all correct papers. so started an appeal in England.. In the meantime i got everthing they wanted and was told that we could go to embassy as many times as we like?? so off we went again in March 2007 and was refused again, only this time the help line to the appeals said no we not allowed to go when on appeal is in process and that tthe embassy should have known this and stopped it there and then, but no they took his money and refused again!!! So off to court i go here in England. was refused again, judge said everything about my marriage was fine and accepted all that..But because i cant work he wanted me and my 15 year old son to go and live in Tunisia??? impossable as he still in full time school.. or find my husband a job for him to come to in England. So i have contacted lots of companys and as we all know we need a N/I number to get work, i went to one company who are arabs themselves and he said leave him there cause he helped one girl get her hubby here from morrocco and he killed 2 people, hit his wife with hammer, and stabbed her mother!!! OH WOW.. what a horrible thing to be told.. of course i not told my hubby... we all kow theres some rats out there but dont tar them with same brush thankyou... my hubby is lovely. Anyway back to my delemma.. nobody can tell me what to do, i seen MP and she said i got to get him at least 6 jobs. OH by the way i do have a solicitor.. I hope to be going back to embassy in march with all papers but im finding this am impossable tast, its making me sick cause i just coming up against brick wall.. PLEASE HELP SOMEBODY tell me what i can do.. i really would like to live a life with the man that i married

woudlg · #2 (**permalink**) 17-01-08

Hi Wendy,

Unfortunately, the primary issue holding you back would appear to be income. Immigration rules state that foreigners cannot have recourse to public funds - it's stipulated on the visa itself. That means that your hubby wouldn't be entitled to any benefits whilst living in the UK. If you yourself haven't got a job and are claiming state benefits then they will refuse you outright on the basis that you won't be able to support him and yourself financially. A person doesn't need a N.I number to get a job, you can apply for an N.I number as long as you have evidence that you're actively seeking work (i.e rejection letters for submitted applications etc.)....if you have friends or family with businesses etc. then that can be useful. I don't mean to be negative or to dampen your hopes, but, even if you were to secure your husband a job offer before he gets here (which isn't easy and you'd need to evidence with a formal offer of employment) they can still decline your application as they're not always satisfied that it's genuine etc. I don't know of anybody unemployed or without substantial financial assets that has got their husband here - money is such a massive decider in their decision-making. I'm sure I've read that if the wife is claiming certain benefits (e.g. jobseekers allowance) then the application will be refused irrespective of whether the husband has a job offer or not. I would really discourage you from throwing more money at the embassy (at over £500 a time it's too damn expensive!) without obtaining advice from the immigration advisory service for example. (www.iasuk.org/) If your situation doesn't change then they are just going to refuse you every time, and happily take your cash for no work at all.

I'm sorry that you are both being kept apart and hope that you get your happy ending x

woudlg · #3 (**permalink**) 17-01-08

Re: N.I number, I meant that you can get a number after you start a job - you don't necessarily have to have one before (though some employers do insist on this.

toonssia · #4 (**permalink**) 19-01-08

Hi Wendy!
wish you all the best but you will have only 2 option in my point of view: 1st he's got a loads of dinars that he can convert into pounds second is you get a job to assume him financially. Lottery would be the third

. I really believe you should find a job then ask for a visa and once you've got it just quit...
Hope you wont get me wrong just trying to help.

taylorbeji · #5 (**permalink**) 19-01-08

Why not go live in tunisia? They have english speaking schools there that your son could go to.

dizzyc · #6 (**permalink**) 19-01-08

Taylorbeji -there is only one english speaking school in Tunis, and it's private. I looked on their website and the fees were £7,500 per term!! If I didn't have kids I'd be living in Tunisia by now but as a parent we have to put our children first and although people moan about the education system in the UK it's structured and doesn't cost anything. Both my children are in top classes at school and I've been told they are capable of reaching university levels so I personally wouldn't want to uproot my kids and move them to a strange environment at such a crucial stage in their development.

The other problem with moving children away from the UK is that they lose contact with the other parent. Although I'm divorced my children see their dad every week and I would never move my kids away and deny them the chance to see their father. All I'm saying is that there are lots of things to take into account when you've got kids, you can't just move away without thinking about what's important for your child.

taylorbeji · #7 (**permalink**) 20-01-08

Dizzyc,
As the wife of a tunsian, I know there are far many more schools that teach in english than the one that you found online. They are everywhere and some of them are even free to tunisian citizens, which they could become if married to a tunsian. Second, since the only thing that miss wendy mentioned was the problem that he hadn't completed school, i assumed that the real dad was either not in the picture or didnt care. Im sorry to have said that so shortly and not explained myself, but i assumed that since she only stated that its because he wasnt finished with school that there were no other reasons holding her from moving.

Barbara · #8 (**permalink**) 20-01-08

Hi toonssia

I just wanted to make a refence to your quote

"I really believe you should find a job then ask for a visa and once you've got it just quit..."

I'm sure if Wendy was able to work she would have done that a long time ago!!!! It's probably not a good idea to make comments like that without knowing the facts about someone else's situation.

Wendy you go for it girl!!!! I have heard of lots of people getting visas that have been in similar situations to you. I'm sure your son will want to continue in full time education therefore moving schools is not an option. Keep fighting them tooth and nail you will get you husband here.

wendy walker · #9 (**permalink**) 20-01-08

Thanks toonssia but you nothing about my illess to make any such comment, if you re read my letter im asking how to get job without having N/I number..

wendy walker · #10 (**permalink**) 20-01-08

Thankyou Dizzyc not everyone thinks about there chidren, my husband knows my son in fact all my sons, that being 4 of then but only one to look after now. I have worked all my life up to 7 years ago, doing nights working round my chidren, i also ran a very successful and busy driving school, so i not sat on my fat arse doing nothing, but my health is more important to me now.